How Mindfulness Literally Saved A Life

The Power Of Doing Nothing

We all have read a poem or story or heard a speech that moved us in some way. Sometimes these words are so moving and life altering that they help us to adjust course along our life's path.

We often do not understand the power of our words. Some people do and use this realization for either personal gain or for the benefit of others. It is also important to realize that you do not need to be in a position of power to have this effect on people too. It could be a small post on social media, a kind word to a stranger passing by, that impacts a persons life.

To my knowledge I have never been that person who had positively impacted another's life in such a way. It was not until the other day when I had a very humbling conversation with one of my practitioners who passed on a conversation they had had with another fellow practitioner.

It was related to me that this person had accidently stumbled on our Sangha and thought what the heck, I'll give mindfulness meditation a try.

It turns out this fortunate encounter saved their life, literally. There was a lot going on in this persons life and they were at an impasse. But the practice of sitting and 'doing nothing', connecting with themselves and the world around them, and relearning all that they had been taught in the past changed their perspective for the better.

Mindfulness allowed them to change their perspective from one that had a catastrophic outcome to one that was more subdued and then eventually to one of balance. Perspective is an important consideration when analyzing a situation. Most often we view circumstances in the most catastrophic manner possible. And more realistically it is not typically a viable outcome.

People often tend to dwell on a situation, playing it forwards and backwards, constructing 'what if's' that too will never come to fruition all in the name of 'covering their bases'. When we look back at many of these events in our own lives we see that they very seldom happen and if they do it is no where near as bad as we play in our minds.

All in all, you are still here and you have overcome what ever the circumstance was.

The situation they were currently dealing with did not change. However their perspective, or view, as a direct result of sitting mindfully, connecting with themselves to achieve calmness of this circumstance did. And that is one of the many results of mindfulness.

One person can make a difference and that person can easily be you. Everyone you meet, even for the briefest of moments, whether it is at the grocery store, the cashier at a restaurant, the cart collector at a retail store, is an opportunity for you to help someone.

Many people are fighting internal battles which we will never know and part of being a mindfulness practitioner is helping people ease their suffering.

Be kind. Be considerate. Be empathetic. You never know what someone else is going through.

I wish you all peace and ease.

Vladimir

Blue Lotus Mindfulness and Meditation Center is a registered 501(c)(3) religious organization.

How Can Pets Teach Us About Mindfulness

The Mindful Pet Owner

A lot of us had pets as kids. And even now as adults some of us still do. We enjoy their company. Wagging tails after a long day at work. A furry face sitting on your chest in the morning saying 'feed me, I'm hungry'. Or just sitting on the couch watching TV or reading a book with your companion on your lap.

As children we learned that our beloved friend needs us to feed them, take them outside, play with, housebreaking, and to provide them with the love and security that all living beings need.

When we were sick they provided us comfort. When they were sick we lovingly reciprocated. When we cried they offered us comfort. When they cried we offered them comfort. 

And they certainly made us laugh when they acted silly.

When they were afraid, we offered them solace and refuge. If they used the floor as their restroom, we cleaned it up, perhaps we got a little angry with them (or ourselves) but that soon dissipated.

All of these actions were how we learned love, compassion, empathy, and patience for living beings. These are the seeds of mindfulness that enable us to also offer compassion and empathy towards all loving being.

So how can we use what we have learned from our pets and translate those considerations to people, including ourselves?

All sentient beings have emotions. When our pet experienced sadness we didn't minimize that feeling. We offered them reassurance and love.

When any person feels sadness why should we treat them any differently? We may hear from someone justifying their sentiments with 'Oh, I told you they were trouble'!

When we see a stray animal on the street we immediately offer it food. 

Why should we treat a person differently? Some may justify not doing so by thinking 'They must be on drugs or an alcoholic'!

If an animal needs a new home we go to a shelter and offer them ours.

Why should we treat a person differently? (Oh, they are from a poor country and will steal our jobs and bring disease).

Use what you have learned with your beloved and precious pet and offer the same compassion, love, and empathy to people, including yourself.

When you do, the world changes. You change. You become more connected with yourself, others, and the entire world.

Sadly, they too are very often the ones who teach us a final and very precious lesson, death. If you had a pet as a child that you grew up with you experienced what happens to a body as it ages and then succumbs to passing. 

When this happens, we experience loss for the first time and it is difficult. But we learn to accept that death is a natural part of life, just as much as birth is.

Every living being you encounter will die and as mindfulness practitioners we can carry this reverence for life into all we do.

Pets do offer us a wonderful opportunity to truly develop our mindfulness practice.  

Wishing you peace and ease,

Vladimir

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Mindfulness, Test Anxiety, and Tea

Using Mindfulness As A Way To Answer Questions.

During the pandemic many were forced to work from home. No longer were some forced to drive from home to office and back home. Daily commutes evaporated much of our quality time with ourselves and loved ones. This newfound freedom allowed many to enroll in some form of online education, to complete the degree they so longed for many years ago. 

After finding a suitable school and registering for classes sooner or later the inevitable test would present itself. 

People don't like tests, especially when we don't pass them. We feel that the instructor judges us. We also judge ourselves to harshly. As a result test anxiety creeps in and robs you of the performance you're certainly capable of, if you prepared studiously.

Anxiety is living in the future and as mindful practitioners you know that the future does not exist, only this precious moment.

So how do you minimize the anxiety before a test? 

Acknowledge that you're feeling anxious. Don't try to shove anxiety into some dark corner of your mind. What happens to any emotion when its been bottled up too long? Imagine a tiger who has been in a cage for many hours on a bumpy trip. What would you do when released? 

Instead sit with your anxiety, invite it to tea. As you sit, breath in, pause, and slowly exhale. Do this several times before and during your test. The more you get to know your anxiety the less afraid you become.

But as you prepare for your wonderful studies here are several testing suggestions I offer as you drink tea with your new, harmless friend:

First, this test doesn't define you. Pass or fail, you are still the loving, caring, and wonderful person you were yesterday and will be tomorrow. Don't let a a few questions from perfect stranger rob you of this peace.

Second, take your time. We live in a fast paced society and this pace seems to inundate every facet of our lives. But speed is the opposite approach you want to take. Be slow. Be methodical. Skip questions and come back to them. Take the same approach here as you would holding hands with your significant other or enjoying a sunny day in the park.

Third, write or draw what's described or listed in the questions. Too often we rely on the visual images in our head. This can lead to missing key components of a question. When you write or draw what's being asked you'll find you might have skipped an important aspect of the question.

Fourth, preparation. Practice with questions already given to you in your text book. When you're familiar with these practice questions you'll begin to notice certain recurring themes and verbiage. These themes and wording will show up again on your test. 

And the fifth, ties in with the fourth suggestion - have confidence in yourself. The more you get correct with practice questions the more confident you'll feel when you take the real test. Don't second guess your answers either. You're two-thirds likely to change your correct answer to an incorrect one. 

I've administered many tests in my past and these suggestions are the culmination of mindfulness and effective strategies. I know they are successful tips too.

Wishing you peace and ease,

Vladimir

Blue Lotus Meditation and Mindfulness Center is a registered 501(c)(3) religious organization.