Showing posts with label well-being. Show all posts
Showing posts with label well-being. Show all posts

Saturday, November 15, 2025

Mindfulness In The University Students Academic Career

I still keep in touch with one of the universities I was affiliated with. I like to see and learn about the direction they are taking by trying to help the many students they have with earning their degree. This week I was invited to attend their week-long summit and was really delighted to see that they are going to focus on an area that is so often overlooked: human thriving.

As the summit unfolded, I was impressed by the diverse range of sessions designed to foster both personal and academic growth among students, encouraging them to develop resilience, purpose, and a sense of well-being alongside their studies. Engaging with faculty and administration provided valuable insights into the innovative programs being implemented, and I left feeling inspired by the university's commitment to nurturing not only academic excellence but also the holistic flourishing of its community. 

What struck me most was how naturally mindfulness was woven into the week’s conversations. It wasn’t presented as an add-on or a trendy practice, but as a foundational skill, one that helps students slow down, notice their inner landscape, and reconnect with what truly matters. In a world where young people are pressured to constantly perform, this gentle invitation to pause felt both radical and deeply necessary.

Many of the speakers emphasized that thriving doesn’t come from doing more, but from doing with intention. Mindfulness gives students the tools to meet their challenges with clarity rather than overwhelm. By learning to anchor their attention in the present moment, they can navigate stress, manage uncertainty, and cultivate a sense of groundedness that supports both learning and living.

I was also encouraged to see how mindfulness was being integrated into academic mentoring, leadership development, and wellness programs. Faculty shared how mindful pauses at the beginning of classes transformed the learning environment, helping students feel more present and connected. Administrators spoke about offering mindfulness-based resilience trainings to help students develop healthier relationships with technology, deadlines, and the pressure to succeed. 

What became clear throughout the summit is that human thriving is not simply about achieving goals, but about becoming whole. It is about nurturing emotional balance, cultivating compassion, and fostering a sense of belonging, both within oneself and within the community. Mindfulness, in this context, becomes a way of discovering inner spaciousness amidst the busyness of academic life.

I left the summit with a renewed appreciation for institutions that are willing to evolve and prioritize well-being as much as achievement. Witnessing the university take meaningful steps toward creating a mindful, compassionate, and thriving campus reminded me that true education is not only about imparting knowledge, it is about supporting humans in becoming their best, most balanced selves.

If your school is looking for mindfulness resources for your students or is interested in starting a mindfulness program, be sure to contact us. This is a free service as well.


Vladimir

Sathu. Sathu. Sathu.

Buddham Saranam Gacchami

 
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Vladimir warmly and skillfully passes on the Buddhas Dharma to a world in need of loving-kindness, compassion, and empathy for the benefit of all living beings.
 
To learn more about us and for free mindfulness and mediation resources you are warmly invited to visit: www.bluelotusmeditation.us
 
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Friday, October 31, 2025

Living Between The Space of Doing And Non-Doing

There is a quiet space that exists between doing and non-doing. It is not the territory of laziness nor the realm of relentless striving. It is a place the Buddha often pointed toward, a balanced awareness that rests at the heart of mindfulness and wisdom. In this space, we discover how to live with purpose without being consumed by activity, and how to rest deeply without falling into stagnation.

The modern world rarely honors this middle ground. We are conditioned to do, to produce, to achieve. Our sense of self-worth is often tied to movement, to the next goal, the next task, the next success. Yet beneath this busyness lies a quiet fatigue, a subtle ache in the heart that longs for stillness. On the other hand, when we swing to the opposite pole, seeking escape or detachment, we can lose our connection to life’s flow. Dharma invites us to discover a middle way: the sacred space between doing and non-doing, where awareness moves naturally and life unfolds without force.

The Restless Mind of Doing

In Pali, the Buddha referred to tanha, craving or thirst, as the root of suffering. This craving is not just for material things but also for becoming. We crave to become successful, enlightened, recognized, loved. Doing, in itself, is not the problem. It is the clinging behind our doing that exhausts the heart.

The restless mind says: I will be happy when… and the doing becomes endless. Even spiritual practice can fall into this trap, meditation becomes another project, mindfulness becomes another goal. We sit on the cushion trying to get somewhere, rather than being where we are. The energy of “doing” sneaks in quietly, disguising itself as progress or productivity.

When we live entirely in the mode of doing, we lose contact with the freshness of life. The morning breeze, the taste of tea, the sound of rain, they all become background noise to the mind’s constant movement. The Buddha described this as a form of dukkha, a subtle dissatisfaction born from the illusion that something is missing right now.

The Passivity of Non-Doing

At the other end of the spectrum lies the comfort of non-doing, the desire to withdraw, to rest, to dissolve into stillness. This, too, has its wisdom. The world’s pace can be overwhelming, and rest is sacred. Yet, when non-doing becomes avoidance, it hardens into inertia. We may convince ourselves that “letting go” means disengaging from life altogether.

But true non-doing, in the Dharma sense, is not about apathy or indifference. It is about allowing life to unfold through us, not apart from us. It is the art of participating in the world without grasping. Non-doing is not inaction, it is right action that arises spontaneously from presence rather than fear or desire.

In the Tao Te Ching, Lao Tzu described this beautifully:
“The sage does nothing, yet nothing is left undone.”

This is the essence of the space between doing and non-doing, an effortless alignment with the flow of things. The Buddha called this samma vayama, right effort, not forcing, not slacking, but a balanced energy guided by mindfulness and wisdom.

The Middle Way of Awareness

The Middle Way the Buddha taught is not merely a moral or philosophical position; it is an energetic experience. It is the felt sense of equilibrium between effort and ease. When we live from awareness rather than craving, our doing becomes compassionate, and our resting becomes restorative.

The key lies in presence. When we are fully present, we no longer act out of habit or compulsion. We respond. Our doing arises naturally from the conditions around us, just as a flower opens when the sun appears. And when rest is needed, we rest without guilt or justification.

Meditation helps us taste this balance directly. In meditation, we “do” we place attention, observe the breath, maintain posture. Yet we also “non-do” we allow thoughts, sensations, and feelings to come and go without interference. This gentle dance is the training ground for life itself. Each breath teaches us how to move between effort and surrender, between the active and the receptive.

Living in the In-Between

To live between doing and non-doing means to cultivate mindful participation in all that we encounter. We continue to work, create, and serve, but our inner attitude shifts. We are no longer performing for an imagined outcome; we are expressing the Dharma in motion.

This is particularly vital in modern life. We are surrounded by messages that glorify “hustle culture,” urging us to fill every moment with achievement. Yet the more we push, the more we drift from our natural rhythm. The Dharma reminds us that awakening is not about accomplishing something extraordinary, it is about returning to simplicity, to the immediacy of now.

Living between doing and non-doing means knowing when to act and when to rest. It means trusting the rhythm of life rather than imposing our own. Some days, compassion looks like serving others tirelessly; on others, it looks like turning off the phone and sitting quietly with ourselves. Both are expressions of wisdom.
When we live this way, we begin to notice the natural intelligence of life guiding us. There is less resistance, less friction. Our actions flow from a deeper source, not the restless mind, but the awakened heart.

The Dharma of Flow

The Buddha often spoke of paticcasamuppada, dependent origination, the truth that all things arise in dependence upon causes and conditions. When we understand this deeply, we see that we are not separate from the flow of life. Our doing is not “ours” in the egoic sense; it is a natural unfolding of conditions.

Imagine a river flowing downstream. The current does not force itself forward, yet it moves powerfully. It responds to gravity, to the shape of the land, to the rocks and bends in its path. When we align ourselves with this natural current, our actions feel effortless. This is the Dharma in motion, the space between doing and non-doing, where we are both active participants and humble witnesses.

Even great teachers and bodhisattvas embody this principle. Their lives are filled with compassionate activity, teaching, serving, healing, yet their hearts remain at rest. Their doing is not driven by desire but by love. Their non-doing is not withdrawal but deep attunement.

Practical Reflections

1. Begin with the breath. Notice the subtle rhythm of doing (inhaling) and non-doing (exhaling). Let the breath guide your awareness into the present.
2. Ask yourself: “Is this action coming from fear or from clarity?” When we act from fear, we push; when we act from clarity, we flow.
3. Honor pauses. Between tasks, conversations, or breaths, pause briefly. These moments of stillness reconnect us with the wisdom of non-doing.
4. Rest consciously. Rest is not wasted time, it is part of the cycle of balance. Let yourself rest as fully as you work.
5. Trust impermanence. Things arise and pass on their own. We don’t have to control the flow, we only need to be awake within it.

Returning to the Heart

Ultimately, living between doing and non-doing is about intimacy with life. It’s about remembering that awakening does not require us to escape the world or master it, only to meet it fully, moment by moment.

When we let go of the compulsive need to fix or achieve, we find that life already contains its own intelligence. The Dharma breathes through us, guiding each step with quiet wisdom. Doing becomes sacred service; non-doing becomes sacred rest.

In the words of the Buddha:

“There is a way between indulgence and denial, the Middle Way, which brings vision, which brings knowledge, which leads to peace.”

May we each learn to walk this Middle Way, to live gracefully between the space of doing and non-doing, and in that balance, discover the freedom of the awakened heart.



Sathu. Sathu. Sathu.

Buddham Saranam Gacchami

 
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Vladimir warmly and skillfully passes on the Buddhas Dharma to a world in need of loving-kindness, compassion, and empathy for the benefit of all living beings.
 
To learn more about us and for free mindfulness and mediation resources you are warmly invited to visit: www.bluelotusmeditation.us
 
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Saturday, October 18, 2025

Mindfulness And The Multigenerational Household

Growing up in the United States it’s uncommon to find grandparents living at home. Yes, they do exist here and there and out of all my friends, and people I knew, there were only two households that were multigenerational. The rest were all what we would consider a nuclear family, mom and dad and one or two children.

Before I go further, I want to state that all families that are built on love, trust and safety are wonderful.  What I will bring forward here are some of the advantages of living in a multigenerational home.

As I travel in various communities in Asia, I see firsthand that it is very much the opposite. Here the grandparents or even married siblings all live in the same house. Homes are rarely empty during the day, and someone is always present to care for the grandparents. Children and grandchildren, are very common as well.

Weddings and engagement celebrations as well as funerial services also oftentimes occur in the home too.

What does this have to do with mindfulness?

A lot.

Being around people doesn’t allow for the sense of loneliness or isolation to take hold. It’s not that there isn’t any peace and quiet at home, there is, but a sense of responsibly to caring for relatives and the home doesn’t allow for unhealthy mindsets to take root.

Younger children learn a sense of community and boundaries as well. I all my years and travels I have yet to see a ‘tantrum’. Now, again, I’m not saying tantrums don’t happen, but they must not be as common as one may expect.

My latest travel was to Cambodia where I witnessed and participated in a funeral service. The body, as well as all of the religious traditions, were observed in the home. When the grandfather passed away, the body wasn’t taken away. Instead, it was lovingly prepared at home where it remained for about 5 days until the actual burial.

This situation is an important lesson when it comes to mindfulness and death. It reminds us, and teaches young children, that death is a natural part of life. It will happen to us all.  As we get older, bodies become frailer, and ailments begin to become more prevalent.

In Western society a lot of this is hidden away from young children. As such, when death of a cherished loved one does happen, feelings are not well addressed or handled. Parents often feel the need to ‘protect’ them from natural phenomena not realizing death also comes to the young as well.

This is an important lesson in mindfulness, being aware of and addressing hard feelings appropriately. And the earlier we teach children and young adults how to address these hard feelings with love and compassion instead of with fear and unskillful responses, the better off they will be when they reach adulthood.  


Sathu. Sathu. Sathu.

Buddham Saranam Gacchami

 
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Vladimir warmly and skillfully passes on the Buddhas Dharma to a world in need of loving-kindness, compassion, and empathy for the benefit of all living beings.
 
To learn more about us and for free mindfulness and mediation resources you are warmly invited to visit: www.bluelotusmeditation.us
 
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Tuesday, August 26, 2025

Leaving A Toxic Environment

Last week I met with one of our newer practitioners, whom we'll refer to as Jane, who then related a personal conversation they had with their supervisor. The succinct version of the interaction was that after many years upon being transferred to a new project, the supervisor mentioned to Jane was that she was taking more sick time on this new team than she had previously with her former team. The supervisor was not upset but merely making an observation, as Jane has plenty of 'sick time'. 

Even though there was no ill-intent on the supervisors part this still caused Jane to pause.

Had she taken more sick time than usual?

Reflecting on the transfer more mindfully, Jane knew that she would be going from a high stress project to one with little to no stress. But what she did not realize were the mental and physical changes that were going to transpire as a result.

After about a month into the new project Janes mind and body felt 'different'. And this new feeling felt 'odd' and 'uncomfortable' so like anyone she made an appointment with her physician to see if there was anything wrong. After all of the testing, the doctor gave her the good news that all of the results were normal.

This was certainly good news but it did not explain how she was feeling. 

It was not until our weekly meeting that the veil of uncertainty was lifted.

After many years, her mind and body were detoxifying from undue mental stress and she was returning to a more relaxed state of existence.

As we explored more of this new state of balance I made the comparison to someone being severely injured and not knowing about the injury until the situation calmed down. Janes situation was much the same. She did not realize her mind and body were injured until the situation changed for the better. It was akin to her living in a continuous 'fight' mode before to now one where the threat had diminished. 

The 'fight' mode she had been living in, no matter how harmful, had become comfortable.

These same heightened mental and physical responses can happen to anyone, and oftentimes as in Janes example, it was unrealized. 

Some occupations that come to mind are police, firemen, and doctors, but as in Janes case she was not in any of these career fields, she works in a office setting.

But occupations are not the only situations where someone may experience significant stress. 

Consider the spouse or significant other who is in an abusive relationship. 

Or those that have experienced a sexual assault. 

Or someone addicted to alcohol or drugs. 

Or the child who gets bullied at school or even at home. 

Doctors may or may not be trained to ask all types of personal questions so that is where a dedicated mindfulness meditation practice come in. 

Mindfulness and meditation allows one to be aware of even the most minutest of changes in both mind and body. After sufficient skill development a mindfulness practitioner will recognize the agitation, explore it more deeply, and then send it on its way.

Jane continues to meet with me in both one-on-one settings as well as individual meetings and she has progressed very nicely in that time.


Sathu. Sathu. Sathu.

Educate Your Mind With The Dharma.
 
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Vladimir warmly and skillfully passes on the Buddhas Dharma to a world in need of loving-kindness, compassion, and empathy for the benefit of all living beings.
 
To learn more about us and for free mindfulness and mediation resources you are warmly invited to visit: www.bluelotusmeditation.us
 
Looking for a way to help guide others? Become a Blue Lotus Aspirant here: https://bluelotusmeditation.us/continue-your-journey
 
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Friday, September 23, 2022

Moving Out Of Your Mind Swamp

Life will always happen around us and to us. 

Whether it’s a fortuitous event like an unexpected handwritten letter from a dear friend, a neutral event like you’re sitting on a bus on your way to work, or one that may have significant negative implications like receiving some dreadful news about a loved one.


Woman With Painful Thoughts

Negative events seem to have a more lasting impact on our wellbeing than the positive or neutral circumstances. And if we allow ourselves to live in those moments too long they too can bloom into lasting anxiety, despair, and hopelessness.


When we dwell in the negative we are giving ourselves permission to be unkind to our being.


It’s not that you are not allowed to feel sad for a friend or sad for yourself at times. You are and these are normal emotions and it is why we have and experience them from time to time. But staying there too long will have an affect on your long-term wellbeing if not addressed mindfully.


If you will, recall a time when perhaps you dwelled in an unfortunate circumstance too long. Perhaps you were fired or laid off from a job. Maybe a long-term relationship was abruptly ended. Or maybe a much anticipated outcome did not come to fruition as planned. What did you do? How did your behavior change? How did it make your body feel? What thoughts were coming to mind.


Now, recalling that same instance, what brought you out of the negative mindset? You may answer friends, family, or even a vacation. If you said any of these, or something else, you’d be wrong.

 

So what then did bring you out of this negative mind-space?


It was you. No one has the power over you, that power of healing is something only you possess. No one may 'make' you feel any type of way. Your feelings are simply what 'you' give permission to or allow to bloom. No one may give you that gift other than yourself.

A Gift


Sure, others may point out or list the positives within you but it is ultimately your decision to say ‘yes, the good qualities they see in me are true’. And then you, no one else, decides to embrace them.


So what made you finally move from this saddened mindset to one of moving forward?


Maybe it was the realization that you are worthy. That you are not lacking or wanting.

 

You simply realized that the suffering you were allowing yourself to sit with was not healing. You were in what I call a mind swamp. You let go of a past that was anchoring you in a place that was un-nurturing.


But now reflect on how long it took you to realize your worthiness and not remain in this mind-swamp? Was it hours, days, weeks, months, or perhaps even years?


As mindfulness practitioners we know that all things, including circumstances are impermanent. And this is an important understanding because it reveals to us that life is truly beautiful when we are aware of this impermanent quality.

 

So how may we move past our mind-swamp into someplace more nurturing?



We will look towards the Buddha for some of his insightful teachings.


One method he suggests as teaches is:

If some unskilled thoughts associated with desire, aversion or confusion arise and disturb the mind, you should attend instead to another characteristic  which is associated with what is skilled . . . It is like a skilled carpenter who can knock out a large peg with a small peg.

You simply replace the negative thought with one that is more wholesome and welcoming. This may sound simple but it can be hard because we like to hold on to what we're comfortable with, even if it's painful.  


The second method the Buddha suggests when dealing with disturbing thoughts is:


Scrutinize the peril of these unskilled thoughts by thinking: 'these are unskilled thoughts, these are thoughts that have errors, indeed these are thoughts that are of painful results . . . It is like a woman or a man, young and fond of adornment, who if the carcass of a snake or a dog were hanging around their neck would be revolted and disgusted and throw it away immediately as soon as they noticed it.


Here you recognize that these thoughts are harmful, have impacts, and will, without a doubt, perpetuate your suffering. When you are lost in your negative thoughts you will continue to justify them. Simply let them go. 


I would like to leave you with this about the power of your thoughts again from the Buddha:


The thought manifests as the word;

The word manifests as a deed;

The deed develops into habit

And habit hardens into character.

So watch the thought and its ways with care

And let it spring from love

Born out of concern for all beings.


Take time to reflect on these teachings and examples and see how best they may fit into your own lives.


I wish you all peace , ease, and wellbeing.


Vladimir


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Tuesday, September 13, 2022

Walking A Path Towards Liberation: A Mindfulness Journey

You wake up on a beautiful Sunday morning. The sun is shinning. The sky is a crisp blue. And the temperature outside is already inviting you to be outdoors. You decide it's going to be a splendid day, one that is not to be wasted indoors. After several moments reflecting on how to spend this wonderful day you finally decide on a picnic at a nearby park.

While you shower you go over menu items in which to bring as well as that novel you've been trying to finish. Today will be a perfect day.

You dress.

You collect the food items you decided on and head out to your car.

As you pass by some friendly neighbors who wish you a good morning your heart stops and your stomach tightens as you gaze to where you're sure you parked yesterday. 

Empty Parking Space

Between the lines of your designated parking spot where your car should be is nothing but empty space.

Your car has been stolen.  

How will you get to work? How will you go to the grocery store? How will you do anything?

The upwelling of emotions, anger, despair, fear, anxiety, and uncertainty, begin to overwhelm your sense of placidity.

This is an example of your servitude to an inanimate object. A possession this is uncaring and unfeeling. 

You are not liberated.

So how may we find the liberation we seek? 

Where do we begin to look?

Liberation is not found in a book or written in a document somewhere. Although the path towards liberation may be described in these items, but they too are inanimate objects.

Liberation is achieved from one singular action, or the more appropriate term being 'non-action'. And that is 'letting go'.

Letting go is about learning how to respond instead of react and adjusting our current perspectives into one that is less self-centered.

Consider your stolen car example from above, you initially had the expectation that the car would be there when returned. Although that is a 'reasonable' expectation we know that as mindfulness practitioners that all things are impermanent, including cars in a parking spot. 

Next, after a few brief moments had elapsed we reacted to several strong catastrophizing emotions thus moving into the future with untimely concerns about getting to work and food shopping. Again, these are relevant concerns but we reacted instead of responded. 

And you reacted, and not responded, in such a manor because you are own by a possession. You are not liberated. A car doesn't care who owns it.

Another example of servitude and not liberation could be a work or political decision, regardless of how it personally applies to you. Most often though most decisions have little to no bearing on you but you chose to react instead of respond.  

Holding on to an idea as eternal is servitude and not liberation. Holding on to a concept as eternal is servitude and not liberation. Holding on to a notion as eternal is servitude and not liberation.

When we look at our mindset or daily activities we see them as 'set in stone' or we justify them as us being 'set in our ways'. This too is servitude and not liberation. We hold on to 'our ways' out of comfort mostly and not out of what truly benefits us...learning to let go. 

Woman Thinking

When we find ourself being resistant to something new (including the prospect of a stolen car) it's because we expect things to be static or stationary. That will never be the long-term dynamic. So learning to let go with mindful awareness and accepting that all things must pass. And then letting them pass when the situation presents itself, regardless of our personal views, with gratitude. 

And it is with gratitude for being in the present moment with what we do have, not what we don't have, is how we walk a path towards liberation. 


And with that my friends I wish you all peace and ease,


Vladimir


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Tuesday, August 23, 2022

Brightening Someone Else's Inner Light

Everyone has their own journey to walk, their own experiences to meet, their own decisions to make, their own actions to be responsible for, their own steps to take on their path. No matter what someone else encounters on their path it is not our path to walk or our decision to make. The experience is solely that individuals. 

A woman walking on a trail

But that doesn't mean when someone experiences times of great suffering we can't be there with them. There is no possibility that we may eliminate their suffering, we are not them, but that doesn't mean we cannot help ease their suffering. In fact, one of the most important acts a person may do for another is to demonstrate kindness. A smile. A kind word. Listening attentively. Even simply acknowledging some ones existence. These are all simple acts of kindness.

The Buddha states that in order to realize enlightenment one must have wisdom and compassion, much like two wings on a bird. Demonstrating compassion towards another not only helps to ease their suffering but also cultivates compassion and empathy within. What greater good may there be? 

Although we may never eliminate suffering in the world, we still make an effort. And it is this kind intention, the hopeful seed within, that we care for and nurture. 

People feel sad or get depressed when they experience overwhelming suffering. Feelings of hopelessness or despair begin to root within the mind and if watered depression may begin to set in.

So how do we brighten someone else's inner light? Before I offer some suggestions let's look at the primary cause of a defeated spirit, future living or expectations. 

Let's consider the following example: your best friend has worked very hard at her company for several years, always show up to work and her work is high quality. Maybe she even gets yearly performance raises. The company posts a new management position and she feels she's ideal for. You both practice interviewing techniques. She interviews and all goes well only to find out that someone junior to her was offered the position. She relates to you that she feels defeated and wonder why she's worked so hard for a company only to be rejected.

As a mindfulness practitioner you examine her feelings nonjudgmentally and realize that her suffering comes from the expectation of a particular event outcome. The expectation, or assumption, was that she would get a promotion based on past performance, she was living in the future. Living in the future is not living in the present moment. Nor is living in the past. Living in the past or living in the future diminishes the inner light. 

Two Woman

So how may we help our dear friend? Here are some nurturing suggestions:

  • We listen without judgment to what they say.
  • We acknowledge without judgment their feelings but we do not offer advice or suggestions on what to do next time, instead only acknowledge their circumstances.
  • Without judgment, we let them know that all things in life are impermanent.
  • Remind them that oftentimes not getting what you want is the best that could happen.
  • Let it go with grace. Holding on to the past increases suffering.    

Remember, we each are on our own path and no matter what we do we may never eliminate another's suffering, but we can ease it a bit, thus helping them walk with awareness.


And with that my friends I wish you all peace and ease,


Vladimir


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Wednesday, March 23, 2022

How To Tell If Your Mindfulness Practice Is Working

How do you know that mindfulness is working for you? Are there signs that come right out and say ‘now that my friend was mindfulness’?

I doubt there is such an obvious signal such as this.

So how may we tell that our practice is working for us?

There are several ways in which I think illustrate the effectives of your practice. The first is how you deal with a crisis.

The Buddha once asked an attendant of his to fetch him some cool water to drink. The dutiful attendant found a creek nearby to fill his vessel. 

Oxcart
However, at the same time an oxcart drove through this creek and muddied the water making it undrinkable. The attendant waited for the mud to settle before filling the drinking vessel.

The attendant related to the Buddha as to why it took him such a loving time to return, and the Buddha replied ‘A disturbed mind is the same as muddy water. With time the mud will settle, and we get clear water. And to get the clear water you didn’t have to do anything and only needed patience’.

In times of stress many people panic. Panic leads to frantic action, disorganized and counterproductive thoughts, stress and anxiety about potential or uncertain outcomes, and often to an even more undesirable outcome. Mindfulness and meditation allow one to foster and develop a sense of balance and calmness allowing one to act with care and attention. It is only when our mind is settled, we have clarity of thought.

At this time, I invite you to reflect upon a past time of crisis or high stress and reflect upon how you handled it. Was it with calmness or was it with agitation?

But what about something that is more of an everyday occurrence, like a relationship?

Often when we’re younger we seek someone that offers us something we ‘think’ we’re needing or lacking. It could be someone with an exciting hair style, a certain personality, or they could be the ‘dangerous or exciting’ person that we know our family with disapprove of. Perhaps we feel we may even be able to ‘fix’ them.

Man On A Motorcycle
But when we look at ourselves with mindful introspection as we age what do we see? Very often we see (hopefully) harmless youthful mistakes and adventures.

But consider where you are now. Have you left those cravings and desires behind, or have you substituted one for another?

For example, perhaps as a teen you liked the boy with the motorcycle or the one in a garage band. You though he improved your image giving you a rough edge, his friends were completely different than yours, and maybe he was several years older than you.

But now in your thirties or forties you find excitement from someone who works hard spending many hours at the office but is never home to nurture your wellbeing. You find creative ways to entice them but the response is seldom acknowledged in a meaningful way. Are you able to ‘fix’ them?

More likely though we begin to view life with more awareness and don’t seek the excitement of youth. We understand that those times served their purpose but have now passed. With our mindful practice we see more clearly, less muddied water if you will, the value of balance and calmness.

So again, how may we tell of our mindfulness practice is working? It’s working when we realize we have awareness of the present moment and welcoming in whatever we’re experience with balance an calm.

 

I wish you peace and ease, 

Vladimir

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