Finding Gratitude In Times Of Hardship

The first Noble Truth of Buddhism easily states that there is suffering in life. Suffering is an inherent component of existence. Therefor we will experience days that are challenging, upsetting, or downright scary to us.

Maybe we miss our bus or train to work.

An important relationship of ours ends without warning.

Bad weather cancels an event we have been looking forward to for so long.

Or perhaps we receive the news that a loved one has passed away.

Any one of these situations or a multitude of others may make us feel that our day, our week, or even our lives are over. But these thoughts only reinforce our notion of permanence and clinging to 'way things were'.

However, when we remove these surficial response or our initial reactions of these feelings we begin to realize yes, that experience may not be what we desired or expected but it is here now.

The more we resist the experience the more we will continue to suffer from the experience.

We agree to accept the experience for what it is.

It’s only when we accept an experience that is hard or unexpectedly challenging that we are able to find gratitude in that present moment.

Imagine you come home from work one day and your home is empty.

On the table is a note from your partner saying that they were unhappy and felt it necessary to end this relationship.

Your initial response could be one of fear, or anger, or uncertainty. Who will love me? I’ll never make it without them in my life. I’m sure there are a lot of other things you may say as well in your mind if not aloud.

But notice the focus of these questions and statements: ‘Me’ 

And if we continue with these self-centered thoughts that are no-doubt debilitating and untrue about yourself we will not be able to find the gratitude from that experience.

That experience taught you some valuable lessons or offered some important experience. 

Maybe you learned how to cook. Or balance a checkbook. Or paint. Or exercise.

If it was an exercise routine maybe you're in better physical condition than before. That's certainly a positive outcome from this relationship.

Another example could be the following.

Maybe your alarm clock malfunctions and you wake up late for work. Not by a little but by a lot. There is no way you’ll get to work at your scheduled time. You call your supervisor with some anxiety and trepidation but calmly let them know you’ll be late.

It turns out that there was a large power outage at 3 AM as a result of a passing storm and you’re not the only one that was affected by this unexpected event.

As you hang up the phone you look out the window and just above the horizon you see the most beautiful sunrise that you’ve seen in such a long time. You realize that this is a sight you haven't seen in a long time because by now you're in the office.

In this example there are at least two opportunities to be grateful for.

One, you were able to experience the beauty of the new day beginning. From the deep purples, to lavenders, to salmon, to a beautiful blue sky.

And two, you have a supervisor that is understanding of others challenging life experiences.

But not every experience is benign as a power outage so how do we find gratitude when a loved one passes? 

The passing of a loved one elicits a much deeper emotional response depending on the level of bonding between two people, but what one may do is not to think of the loss of the person but to be grateful for the experience. 

There are now 8 billion people on Earth and you will only ever encounter a very, very small percentage of its inhabitants. So the fact that the two of you were able to share many times together is a very unique experience shared only between the two of you. And that gift is one that truly never disappears and is something to be grateful for. 

We will all experience times of disappointment, grief, sadness, and hardship. But how long we live in those moments is entirely up to us. And the more we focus on ‘us’ and not the moment we will continue to perpetuate a clouded perspective.

When we learn to respond to a situation rather than react to one we are able to find gratitude in it, no matter how saddening or challenging it is.

And when we learn to respond with openness instead of resistance, curiosity instead of certainty, love instead of fear, we are able to allow ourselves to experience the joy of gratitude.  

Wishing you continued peace and wellbeing,

Vladimir

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Mindfulness And The Philosophy Of Dana

Dana (Dah - Na) is a Pali word meaning generosity. Dana is the basis of Buddhism especially when we warmly look at the roots of this valuable principle. When we think of generosity, especially in the West, we often think of a financial gift and although it certainly can be, this first or second line of thought is a result of the type of society we live in. So much of what we do daily is based upon some form of commercial transaction. 'If I buy this expensive gift for them then they will get me something expensive in return'. Is that truly a gift of Dana? It's not and certainly represents a disconnect between money and Dana. 

When we look into the true meaning of Dana we see it's much, much more than money. Dana is unrestricted generosity, it is vulnerability, it is love. Let's consider you, your being for a moment. No matter where you are at this very moment, you have a body, you have a mind, you are alive. No matter what your position is on life and creation, you exist and that is a gift whether purposeful endowment or universal chemical mishap, it matters not.

When the Buddha transmitted the Dharma he often talked about generosity. But since Dana doesn't always include money how are we supposed to be 'generous'? 

We may simply start with ourselves. When we live an ethically guided life others cultivate trust in us. They trust our words. They trust our actions. And they trust our decisions. Being trustworthy is a wonderful gift we may give to others.

Presence is another generous gift we may offer. If we choose to have a child we expect to offer them a significant portion of our time. We love them. Nurture them. Bathe them. Feed them. Help them with homework as they enter school, and more. But is there more we may offer? Of course there is. Perhaps at your job they offer volunteer work with various humanitarian organizations. Helping others that you know have no way to help you back is truly generous.

Spiritual friendship is another wonderful gift we may offer. The third jewel of Buddhism is the Sangha. Although originally a Sangha was the monastic community we may lovingly expand that definition to include the community we live in. We support our neighborhood by maintaining our homes and yard if we have one. A well maintained home supports the entire neighborhood by being aesthetically pleasing. We are there for our neighbors in times of celebration, like a birthday party or births, and we are there for them in times of grief like the passing of a loved one. Spiritual friendship develops a well bonded community. 

We follow the Buddhas teachings as well as his example of living a wholesome life, not for any other kamma or merit than to help others. We were gifted our life so that we may help others ease their suffering. For easing some ones suffering makes the world a better place. And when some ones suffering has been eased they are likely to help another. This then becomes a wonderful chain reaction that is propagated through out the world. 

Wishing you continued peace and wellbeing,

Vladimir

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Acknowledging Your Generosity And Expressing Our Gratitude

Although we practice generosity and gratitude year round, in the United States November is a month where individuals and organizations express these sentiments publicly. These public expressions provide a sense of humbleness and modesty for individuals and organizations show a sense of vulnerability that is not often witnessed in our current society. For we truly know that no one is truly self-sufficient and we all rely upon one another in ways we don't often realize.

Below is our acknowledgment to all of you who greatly impact our path and benefit from our offerings:

Dear Brothers and Sisters,

As I reflect upon all of the good that's happened over the course of the year I know that it would not have been possible without all of your kindness in both donations and presence. It is important for us to acknowledge your kind generosity and how it has improved the many lives we have touched through our outreach efforts, on-line and in-person events.

The offerings that your generosity have made possible:

▪ Bi-weekly Guided Meditations and Dharma Talks.

▪ Weekly Sangha's: Healing, New Beginnings, Veterans, LQBQT+, and teens.

▪ A summer mindfulness retreat for teens.

▪ Personal guided meditations or mindfulness instruction for an improved life.

▪ Lotus Petals - our monthly news letter.

▪ Several day-long virtual retreats.

▪ Mindfulness and Meditation Teacher Training.

▪ Improved software, equipment and internet technology to warmly reach you.

All of these programs and offerings are made possible by you, our practitioners, followers, and dear friends. And all of these offerings are offered without a required fee. As you may recall we are entirely donation based.

We provide these offerings solely to promote lovingkindness in a world that is in need of love and compassion. In other words we do what we do based on the Buddhist idea of dana.

Generosity and charity always positively affects at least two people, the giver and the receiver. Generosity allows the recipient to feel seen, cared for, a sense of security, and valued in a world where they may feel otherwise. Generosity from the giver allows them not only to earn merit but to know that they are helping a person or family live with a sense of security, peace, and wellbeing. The giver has made a difference in some ones life and what better way to foster and cultivate lovingkindness in our world.

As we begin to close out this calendar year we sincerely want to express our gratitude to all you for your support and look forward to your kind presence in the future.

For ways you may like to support our efforts please see visit our website at: www.blulotusmeditation.us.

Wishing you continued peace and wellbeing,

Vladimir

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