The Road to Suffering: Cravings, Desires, And Attachment

We breathe, we touch, we see, we get thirsty, we get hungry, we have emotions, and we have desires. Some of these are necessary for life. Others maybe not so much.

The Buddha tells us that desires or 'cravings' are the source of our suffering. It's not that humans can't 'want' or 'desire' food when we're hungry, water when we're thirsty, or companionship when we're lonely. These are necessary conditions for us to sustain life.

But what about the desire for the large home or the expensive automobile. Most may realize that owning a Bentley or Lamborghini, or the ocean cliff home are out of reach but the craving is still there. 

One reality some don't realize is that it's both the wanting and having that causes suffering. The suffering of wanting and then the suffering of keeping is self-perpetuated. So often with any possession, a dwelling, an automobile, various clothing, many books, and more, we allow inanimate objects to posses us which increases our suffering. 

Recall if you will, a time when you were looking forward to eating at a new and exciting restaurant. Maybe it was the new Korean barbeque restaurant or the new pizza parlor friends have been raving about. Whichever, you had but an expectation of how wonderful this meal would be, how succulent each morsel of food would taste.

You order, wait patiently for your food to arrive, and the joy on your face is palatable when it arrives. The server places each plate directly within your reach. You bite into your first bite and find it tastes OK. Not great, but OK. You have experienced suffering due to a future you built about how this experience would be. This future never manifested into fruition.

You become angry, disappointed, saddened as a result. Your mind is now agitated. It never occurred to you that your cravings would not be met. And now that your mind is agitated you hold on to attachment of the unfulfilled expectation and money you spent.

My wife, who is Cambodian, has a saying that fits well here and with most of life's circumstances, 'don't care too much'.

This may seem passive or nonchalant but it really exemplifies 'The Middle Path', not too much, and not too little. Accept what life gives you as it gives you without too much expectation and with gratitude. 

When something goes your way, great. Enjoy it while it's there because it will pass. This passing may be to something more joyful, or unfortunate, or to something indifferent. 

When something unfortunate arises know that it too will pass. And this passing may lead to something joyful or to something indifferent. 

That's the beauty of life, it's always changing. It's impermanent. And it's this impermanence that allows us to appreciate what we do have, life, in that very, singular moment. We know that that moment will never, ever, come again. 

Remember that cravings and desires are future wanting and not in the here and now. And attachment is the unacceptance that all things, good, bad, or indifferent, must pass.

And with that my friends I wish you all peace and ease,

Vladimir

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The Five Great Dreams of The Bodhisatta

Prior to Buddha becoming the revered one we refer to today like all of us he too was on a journey of discovery. In pursuit of this wholesome knowledge he abandoned all worldly possessions and comforts. Over the course of five or six years he studied under many gurus of the day but either learned nothing new or quickly surpassed their teachings. 

Not long before his awakening he lived a solitary life which aided immensely to the extra-ordinary progress and strengthening of his mental concentration. 

Living in utter seclusion for fifteen days, the noble Bodhisatta (Sidharth Gautama right before his awakening into Buddhahood), dreamed five Great Dreams after midnight, just approaching dawn on the fourteenth waxing day of the month of Vesākha (the second month of the Buddhist calendar).

The Five Great Dreams and Their Interpretation

 1. When the Tathagata; worthy and rightly self-awakened; was still an un-awakened bodhisatta, this great earth was his great bed. The Himalayas, king of mountains, was his pillow. His left hand rested in the eastern sea, his right hand in the western sea, and both feet in the southern sea. 

This first great dream appeared to let him know that he would awaken to the unexcelled right self-awakening.

2. A woody vine growing out of his navel stood reaching to the sky. 

This second great dream appeared to let him know that when he had awakened to the noble eightfold path, he would proclaim it well as far as there are human and celestial beings.

3. White worms with black heads crawling up from his feet covered him as far as his knees. 

This third great dream appeared to let him know that many white-clothed householders would go for life-long refuge to the Tathagata.

4. Four different-colored birds coming from the four directions fell at his feet and turned entirely white. 

This fourth great dream appeared to let him know that people from the four castes: priests, noble-warriors, merchants, and poor, having gone forth from the home life into homelessness in the Dhamma and Vinaya taught by the Tathagata, would realize unexcelled release.

5. In the fifth dream the Tathagata walked back and forth on top of a giant mountain of excrement but was not soiled by the excrement. 

This fifth great dream appeared to let him know that the Tathagata would receive gifts of robes, alms food, lodgings, and medicinal requisites and that he would utilize them without any attachment and clinging to them.

And it was with these dreams and their interpretation that Sidharth Gautama was then given the Four Noble Truths and the Noble Eightfold Path that was became the Buddha or the Enlightened One we know today. And on this day, which is called Vesak Day, Buddhists all around the world celebrate.  

And with that my friends I wish you all peace and ease,

Vladimir

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