On Being 'Insert Emotion Here'.

When we experience an emotion we typically say 'I am angry' or 'I am sad'...or I am whatever emotion is being experienced at the time.

'I am' described a quality that something possesses as part of it's characteristics. For example, a Red Delicious apple will always be red. It will never be orange or yellow. It's coloring will never change. 

Your emotions, on the other hand, will.

You are not always angry, happy, sad, or melancholy. In fact, on any given day you may experience all of these emotions for different lengths of time and even intensities.

A monk best described emotions to me as this: emotions are like tools in a tool box. You only use the right tool for the right job and when you're finished you put the tool back.

Too often we allow ourselves to carry an emotion for far too long. The longer we carry it, the less useful it is. This not only applies to the emotions we consider 'negative' like anger but applies just as much to the 'positive' emotions like elation.

Why is this?

It's simply because we have not realized or accepted the moment has passed. We desire to stay there even if we feel it is hurtful.

All conditions, without exception, have the quality of impermanence. And it is within impermanence that we may take comfort as well.

We may consider impermanence as the 'toolbox' in which our emptions reside. When we need joy we reach into our emotional toolbox and use 'joy'. When we are finished, we simply put it back for future use.

But some toolboxes don't get replaced. Instead the tool, or emotion in this case, stays with the person, much like a toolbelt. After awhile the toolbelt gets full, cumbersome to carry, and noisy as we walk. We no longer need the hammer, but we choose to carry it anyway. 

In other words, we hold on to said 'emotion' too long and it becomes counter productive to living in the moment appropriately, this emotion no longer serves to your advantage. We bring about suffering by attachment. 

Now we may ask how long is a moment. A moment certainly is not a decade, a year, a even a month. To some degree, this depends on the individual circumstance. The death of a dear loved one or a birth may last a week or so. However a graduation may only last a few hours. Making the red light so you are not late to work may only last a few seconds.

It is important for each of us to be sure that we use our emotions appropriately and that we return them to our toolbox so that we do not end up carrying too much of a load in our daily lives. If we do, we end up risking our mental well-being because after all, you are much more than any single emotion.

  

Sathu. Sathu. Sathu.
 
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